Black Girl Problems, Dating, Race, Uncategorized

Skin. A Sequel.

"You're not even that dark.  Look at this."  he demonstrated by pulling my sleeve off  to expose my shoulder. "This - this is practically white." A few things came to my mind in this moment. First of all - how fucked up this was.  I understood he was trying to flirt, and this was what… Continue reading Skin. A Sequel.

Advice, Feminism, Misogyny, Uncategorized

Unapologetic Bitch

I have been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember.  Maybe it stems from being a middle child or being adopted or just being a female in general succumbing to the societal pressures of being accommodating and pleasant. "What a bitch." I remember the first time I was called a bitch.  It… Continue reading Unapologetic Bitch

Advice, Relationships, Uncategorized

Likable

I was listening to a podcast recently with the boss babe trinity - Oprah, Mindy Kaling, and Reese Witherspoon.  I find each of these women so inspiring.  They discussed many points on female empowerment .   A concept they introduced to me  in their conversation was the idea of becoming more relate-able and less likable. There… Continue reading Likable

Advice, Childhood, Uncategorized

Identity

I have been called a variety of names in my life. My birth certificate says my name is Chanelle Davis. That's not my name. That name wasn't even chosen for me. When I was seven I learned to write out Chanelle in cursive. I loved it. I would start with the curve of the capital… Continue reading Identity

Religion, Social Media, Spiritual Abuse, Uncategorized

Full Blast.

There are two sides to every story. Then there are screenshots. This woman by the way is the children's pastor to the church I left. Can you guess why I left? And she did go to my mother's home, (after knowing full well that we had just spent the night in the ER, deciding that… Continue reading Full Blast.

Black Girl Problems, Race, Uncategorized

Letter From an Angry Black Woman.

I understand that I now have the reputation of being a bitter, angry person who just writes about people she doesn't like. I'm old enough to know that what others think shouldn't bother me. But I'm still human. Like I wrote when I began this journey - this is my story, within my limited perspective.… Continue reading Letter From an Angry Black Woman.

Friendship, LOSS, Relationships, Uncategorized

Growing Pains

This is going to be wildly uncomfortabe, but altogether necessary. Remember as a child, things seemed so black or white. In the movies we watched, and the stories we read there was clearly a right and a wrong. There was clearly portrayed the good guy, and the bad guy. It was easy to know who… Continue reading Growing Pains