Advice, Dating, Relationships, Uncategorized

Red Flag

  I am terrible at relationships. This is not a secret.  You know how the common reactions to fear are either fight or flight?  The anxiety that comes over me in a relationship results in a  somewhat  spastic combo.  I tend to rush things, getting swept up in new feelings that deafen me to the… Continue reading Red Flag

Advice, Relationships, Uncategorized

Likable

I was listening to a podcast recently with the boss babe trinity - Oprah, Mindy Kaling, and Reese Witherspoon.  I find each of these women so inspiring.  They discussed many points on female empowerment .   A concept they introduced to me  in their conversation was the idea of becoming more relate-able and less likable. There… Continue reading Likable

Relationships, Religion

From a Happy Bachelorette

I’m not sure when it started. Maybe it’s always been there, the pressure. I remember getting ready for my parents wedding day and being told by guests that one day I too would have a pretty wedding. I was four. At that time the golden, shiny ribbon woven in my braid proved more interesting than… Continue reading From a Happy Bachelorette

Black Girl Problems, Dating, Race, Relationships, Uncategorized

Coffee – Hold the Cream.

I really don't like Dunkin Doughnuts. I remember thinking just that when he walked through the door late. He picked the location. I don't like businesses that have cutesy names, particularly with alliteration. For me there was little difference between Dunkin Doughnuts and Chuck E. Cheese. We had been seeing each other for a solid… Continue reading Coffee – Hold the Cream.

Dating, LOSS, Relationships, Uncategorized

Cheater, Cheater – Pumpkin Eater.

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies." - Unknown Have you ever been betrayed? If you have to think about it, you haven't. There is nothing worse than finding out you misplaced your trust in someone. Physical infidelity is devastating- there's no diminishing that. Yet, there's another form of… Continue reading Cheater, Cheater – Pumpkin Eater.

Friendship, Relationships, Uncategorized

True Friends

In my entry, "Birds of a Feather", I gave some examples of people who are bad friends and traits of people who can't be trusted.  Some of you challenged me to do a follow up on the kind of people we should embrace as friends, instead of just who to avoid. Challenge accepted.   The… Continue reading True Friends

Dating, Relationships, Uncategorized

A Single Ambition

There's a huge gorgeous thunderstorm outside my window, and I can't sleep. A clap of thunder woke me up and as I awoke, and I realized my arm was sore and red. I stumbled to the bathroom, turned on the light and recognized I was having an allergic reaction. I popped a Benedryl, put on… Continue reading A Single Ambition