Black Girl Problems, Dating, Race, Uncategorized

Skin. A Sequel.

"You're not even that dark.  Look at this."  he demonstrated by pulling my sleeve off  to expose my shoulder. "This - this is practically white." A few things came to my mind in this moment. First of all - how fucked up this was.  I understood he was trying to flirt, and this was what… Continue reading Skin. A Sequel.

Advice, Feminism, Misogyny, Uncategorized

Unapologetic Bitch

I have been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember.  Maybe it stems from being a middle child or being adopted or just being a female in general succumbing to the societal pressures of being accommodating and pleasant. "What a bitch." I remember the first time I was called a bitch.  It… Continue reading Unapologetic Bitch

Advice, Dating, Friendship, LOSS, Relationships, Uncategorized

How I Let Go

Here's another how-to article.  I don't know, maybe you're someone who doesn't get attached and is able to let go of things relatively easy.  It's no secret if you've met me that I am a very sensitive individual and feel things deeply.  When I care for someone whether they are a  coworker, friend,  or someone… Continue reading How I Let Go

Advice, Dating, Relationships, Uncategorized

Red Flag

  I am terrible at relationships. This is not a secret.  You know how the common reactions to fear are either fight or flight?  The anxiety that comes over me in a relationship results in a  somewhat  spastic combo.  I tend to rush things, getting swept up in new feelings that deafen me to the… Continue reading Red Flag

Advice, Relationships, Uncategorized

Likable

I was listening to a podcast recently with the boss babe trinity - Oprah, Mindy Kaling, and Reese Witherspoon.  I find each of these women so inspiring.  They discussed many points on female empowerment .   A concept they introduced to me  in their conversation was the idea of becoming more relate-able and less likable. There… Continue reading Likable